Going back to Phil D's OP – and I am probably known here on PB as a staunch, unvanquished defender of paedobaptism against those who oppose our view – I see the anti-paedos as
in error rather than
in great sin.
Here we are, friends, nearing the end of this age, with the forces of antichrist slowly circling our camp, plotting our being silenced – and, failing that,
destruction – and what are we doing? going after one another! Like the heathens in the OT who sought to attack Jerusalem and the LORD turning them against one another to their utter ruination, and the Jew's victory through God's intervening mercy and grace.
There are many "Reformed Baptists" (i.e., Doctrines of Grace baptists – for a genuinely
Reformed distinctive is the full continuity of the command to circumcise the infants as a mark of the covenant and the command to baptize the NT infants, seeing as we, "if [we] be Christ's, then are [we] Abraham's seed, and heirs according to the promise" -
Gal 3:29); to continue, there are many "Reformed Baptists" who are godlier than we paedos in many respects, and I would think it would behoove us to accord them the liberty of conscience to err even while in good faith before Christ
in their error, and thus not under a sense of condemnation. Their view makes sense to them and they hold to it. The LORD will sort us out when we stand before Him.
In the meanwhile, I will, in my own congregation, as an under-shepherd of THE Shepherd, welcome credos as full members so long as they – from the heart – honor our views and not disturb our peace in our communion with Christ by undermining our standards, thus remaining with us in the peace of God in which we stand.
Given the murderous intent of our mortal adversaries, it is but godly-fitting we welcome into our spiritual house our Baptist brethren, that they have access to the One who is the Refuge of His precious flock, amidst the ravagers roaming the wastelands of this world. In some areas of the world there are very few sound Reformed refuges, and I would not exclude from the Table a Baptist brother.