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Puritan Board Freshman
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."
Context: Is it a sin if you're single and are entertaining sexual thoughts about a single woman?
Me: Yes.
Other Person: No.
This was from some debate I had since someone was said that he was struggling with lust over this woman, but someone else said that it's fine. I don't know enough Greek or have a thorough biblical background, so I don't know if I should continue following my gut feeling which was to go with the more standard answer of "yes is sinful" or if I should change my mind on this. The other person seemed to have a lot more scriptural knowledge to back up the idea that it isn't sinful, but instead a God-given desire.
So according to him, the actual meaning of this section from the Beatitudes is talking about a man coveting married woman, not about women in general.
- Lust actually means covet (epithumeo)
- Lust to Jesus is coveting something that is not yours. Same Greek words are used lust and covet (epithumeo). This is synonymous with the Greek to Hebrew terms as well. The Septuagint was the version of the Old Testament that the apostles quoted from and that everyone read at the time.
- While words may have double meanings in English, this is much rarer in Koine Greek, especially when there are other Greek words that much more closely fit our English concept of lust, such as pathos, akrasia, or aselgeia. So if Jesus wanted to condemn all forms of sexual desire he would have used one of these, as the apostles regularly did. He didn't. He picked the one straight from the 10 commandments on adultery - the very thing he was talking about: coveting another man's wife.
- Woman actually means wife (gune)
- The word for woman and wife is the same in Greek - gune - so the passage would read better as "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a WIFE lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart"
- This kind of attraction is biblical and leads to marriage (1 Corinthians 7:9)
- If you burn with passion for a single woman you should marry per Paul to avoid fornications. Not adultery. And it's not a sin to burn with passion for a single woman - but you must abstain from sex until marriage. 1 Corinthians 7:9 - "But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion."
- The reason for the standard reading of this is because of purity culture in the US
- Purity culture Church in the US (in the 1990s, 2000s, and early 2010s) in conjunction with Joshua Harris' books I Kissed Dating Goodbye falsely promoted the concept that male sex drive is bad
- This kind of culture will bond men in shame, which will cause them to stumble
- Scholarly citations
- Dr Yamauchi (translator of the 1984 NIV)
- Dr Bill Mounce (translator of the ESV)
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