I'm not taking a side here, but a pro-deaconess argument for this passage revolves around the same principle that Presbyterians sometimes use to refute Baptist quotations of verses such as "Believe and be baptized." When a Baptist says this, the Presbyterian correctly responds that the speaker is addressing adults, telling them what they need to do. He then adds that this does not establish a universal teaching on the proper recipients of baptism. It does not logically follow that
only adults may be baptized.
Now apply the same line of reasoning to this passage. Paul, speaking about the office of deacon, says that they should be "one-woman men." As above, this does not establish a universal teaching which would answer the question, is there an office of deaconness? The supporter of deaconnesses says that more passages need to be taken into consideration, as does the Presbyterian when Baptists proof-text.
This argument obviously means little to a Baptist, but since you accept paedobaptism, I thought I would share it, since it's the one with which I am most familiar.
And it didn't generate much discussion at the time, but see
this earlier thread of mine for a reference to Pliny the Younger, who writing at the end of the first century says that the Christians had
ministrae (ministers/female deacons). This doesn't relate to the OP specifically, but I found it very interesting as one who is also looking into this debate.
