Jonathan95
Puritan Board Sophomore
I met my girlfriend online back in May. She was living in California at the time and now she moved out here to Boston for work and to try and make things work with me. She is an incredible Christian woman although we disagree on things which I think is a big deal. She continues to say that I am making mountains out of mole hills.
She ascribes to being Pentecostal because she grew up in that kind of church although she doesn't really know if the gifts are still for today. She doesn't practice any like the Pentecostals claim to. Also, and it's strange to try and explain this, it seems like she's a Calvinist that doesn't want to be a Calvinist. I mean this in the sense that she accepts the doctrines of grace as described in the 5 points. With that said, she would NEVER claim to be a Calvinist for whatever reason, and that's fine. In the end Christ in king. We are Christians before we are anything else anyway.
We also disagree about the use of contraception. If we ever got married she would want to use it for about 2 years while I'd rather not. Maybe that's my bad and I just don't know it yet.
Another thing is that she continues to go on and on about how the culture affected why some things in the Bible had to be said but that don't apply to us today where we live. Like in 1Tim 2:12:
"I do not permit a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet."
She claims that Timothy was dealing with a specific issue in Ephesus. That it was written to a specific audience and that we cant expect to apply it to every circumstance. Hence, sometimes women preachers and teachers might be ok. But in the end she makes sure to tell me that she just doesn't know. That she hasn't done extensive reading and research.
Another time when she'll use the same argument is in 1 Cor 11:4-10:
"Every man who has something on his head while praying or prophesying disgraces his head. But every woman who has her head uncovered while praying or prophesying disgraces her head, for she is one and the same as the woman whose head is shaved. For if a woman does not cover her head, let her also have her hair cut off; but if it is disgraceful for a woman to have her hair cut off or her head shaved, let her cover her head. For a man ought not to have his head covered, since he is the image and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man. For man does not originate from woman, but woman from man; for indeed man was not created for the woman’s sake, but woman for the man’s sake. Therefore the woman ought to have a symbol of authority on her head, because of the angels."
She'll point how how women don't use head coverings anymore so that this was purely cultural that has no bearing on us nowadays and that if it did, it means that women who have cancer and bald heads can't pray to God without covering their heads or else they are sinning.
It's frustrating debating with her because she'll tell me that, no matter what I say, she just isn't sure unless she does her own research but she never actually goes and does research to hear the different arguments for this stuff. It's just frustrating.. I hope I'm not doing the wrong thing in staying with her.. I love her but I just want to be doing the right and Godly thing for Jesus Christ in the end.
Any questions, comments, advice, or concerns would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
She ascribes to being Pentecostal because she grew up in that kind of church although she doesn't really know if the gifts are still for today. She doesn't practice any like the Pentecostals claim to. Also, and it's strange to try and explain this, it seems like she's a Calvinist that doesn't want to be a Calvinist. I mean this in the sense that she accepts the doctrines of grace as described in the 5 points. With that said, she would NEVER claim to be a Calvinist for whatever reason, and that's fine. In the end Christ in king. We are Christians before we are anything else anyway.
We also disagree about the use of contraception. If we ever got married she would want to use it for about 2 years while I'd rather not. Maybe that's my bad and I just don't know it yet.
Another thing is that she continues to go on and on about how the culture affected why some things in the Bible had to be said but that don't apply to us today where we live. Like in 1Tim 2:12:
"I do not permit a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet."
She claims that Timothy was dealing with a specific issue in Ephesus. That it was written to a specific audience and that we cant expect to apply it to every circumstance. Hence, sometimes women preachers and teachers might be ok. But in the end she makes sure to tell me that she just doesn't know. That she hasn't done extensive reading and research.
Another time when she'll use the same argument is in 1 Cor 11:4-10:
"Every man who has something on his head while praying or prophesying disgraces his head. But every woman who has her head uncovered while praying or prophesying disgraces her head, for she is one and the same as the woman whose head is shaved. For if a woman does not cover her head, let her also have her hair cut off; but if it is disgraceful for a woman to have her hair cut off or her head shaved, let her cover her head. For a man ought not to have his head covered, since he is the image and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man. For man does not originate from woman, but woman from man; for indeed man was not created for the woman’s sake, but woman for the man’s sake. Therefore the woman ought to have a symbol of authority on her head, because of the angels."
She'll point how how women don't use head coverings anymore so that this was purely cultural that has no bearing on us nowadays and that if it did, it means that women who have cancer and bald heads can't pray to God without covering their heads or else they are sinning.
It's frustrating debating with her because she'll tell me that, no matter what I say, she just isn't sure unless she does her own research but she never actually goes and does research to hear the different arguments for this stuff. It's just frustrating.. I hope I'm not doing the wrong thing in staying with her.. I love her but I just want to be doing the right and Godly thing for Jesus Christ in the end.
Any questions, comments, advice, or concerns would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!