false witness

Regarding using gender pronouns I was recently challenged by a somewhat charismatic but conservative pastor who said it could be loving act to refer to someone by their gender pronouns, even if they don't line up with their sex assigned at birth. To me, I was shocked to hear this because it...

Is pretending that something is real the same as lying? Does the age of the person and timeline of when the "truth" is revealed play a part? What about motives?